9 hard truths about dating.

Before you get into a relationship, make sure you´re aware of these things.

Relationships are complicated. Just like life. There is no concrete rulebook that states how you should approach a relationship. The union of two human souls requires a very high level of consciousness, otherwise the relationship is doomed to fail. Most of us have been in relationships where we made these mistakes and failed to put ourselves first. When you first meet someone it is very easy to ignore all the hard work that must be put into communication, respect and empathy, because once you commit to a relationship, it will require constant effort from both parties in order for the relationship to flourish and actually be enjoyable.

1. Dating and relationships truly are a 2-way street. We play equal part in how people treat us. Good and bad.

Make sure the other person has the same level of commitment as you have. Otherwise you will be constantly be devoting more of your precious energy and time into someone who doesn’t express that same level of interest for you. In a relationship, in should be in both parties best interest to receive what they put out. When we fall head over heels for someone, it is easy to live with a blindfold over our eyes and make that person the center of our universe, only to realize that the other person is not on the same channel, they may even be dating other people without telling you about it. It’s important to communicate without fear of getting rejected what you expect out of the relationship you currently have with that person. How long have you known each other? Has the other person expressed genuine interest in your daily activities and goals? Do they check up on you every once in a while? Or is it you who initiates conversation 100% of the time?

2. Not everything requires a response. When you entertain a clown you become part of the circus. Don’t confuse your silence for weakness.

Silence speaks more than words in many situations. Not everything has to be a game of communication. If you are going to tell someone you love them, or that you appreciate them, don’t do it out of expecting a response to validate that they feel the same way. Do it without expecting anything in return, because you genuinely want to express it.

3. Inconsistency is someone´s way of consistently telling you who they are, what they want and what they don’t want.